Your Life Doesn’t Need to Look Like the World’s Timeline
The world has a script for life: married by 30, house by 35, 2.5 kids and a dog by 40. 🏡🐶 If your life isn’t following that pattern, it can feel like you’re missing out, falling behind, or even failing. But here’s the truth: God doesn’t measure your life by the milestones on a timeline - He measures it by faithfulness in the season you’re in.
For singles, especially those of us in our 30s, 40s, and 50s, this can be a strange and challenging space. Maybe you’ve never married. Maybe you’re single again, with children, and your life looks completely different from your peers.
Church culture often celebrates marriages, family photos, and milestone achievements, which can leave singles feeling overlooked, out of place, or even invisible. But Scripture reminds us that our worth isn’t defined by relationship status or family structure.
Take Psalm 37:23–24:
“The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in Him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand.”
Even when our path looks “out of order” by society’s standards, God is holding us steady. He is present in the quiet seasons, in the delays, and in the unexpected turns.
Or Ecclesiastes 3:1:
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
Singleness - whether lifelong or mid-life - is a season with its own opportunities: time to grow in faith, cultivate deep friendships, serve others freely, explore passions, and invest in personal development. Your story is not broken because it doesn’t look like the neighbour’s Instagram feed.
Being single without kids, or re-entering singlehood with kids in mid-life, comes with unique joys and challenges. You may face curious questions at church, subtle (or not-so-subtle) assumptions that your life is “incomplete,” or the constant comparison to peers.
But these seasons also invite freedom. You get to define life on your own terms, to pursue God’s calling without compromise, and to celebrate the richness of your current story.
Galatians 6:4 reminds us:
“Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else.”
Your life doesn’t have to fit a timeline. God writes better stories than we do, and each season - single, married, with kids, without kids - has its sacred, holy, and beautiful moments. Celebrate them. Live fully. And trust that your story is unfolding exactly as it should under God’s guidance.
X Kate
